Thanksgiving Through My Eyes (as interpreted by a mom) – SOL 12/2/14

I don’t love holidays. It’s not that I don’t love my family – I do very much. But holidays are usually days when I have to interact with more people than normal – people who I don’t know very well. People who don’t “get” me.

Thanksgiving day started out ok, except for the fact that, for some unknown reason, I wasn’t allowed to play video games much. Something about family and being thankful. I’m very thankful for video games. They help keep my mind busy and me entertained. I’m really good at them and feel a lot of pride in being able to beat levels. I don’t get upset when I lose, as I enjoy facing the challenge of solving a problem to beat the level. I know that there’s no point in arguing, at least not today. Oh well, at least I’m allowed to watch tv. Somehow, this is more “socially acceptable.”

We had to drive a long way. I wasn’t allowed to play video games in the car, so it was a really boring ride. I fell asleep, which helped to pass the time, but it’s bad because it usually means that I will have a ton of trouble falling asleep later on. I had a snack, as it was already almost lunch time. I’m not sure why on holidays we eat at different times than the regular times. This is not a very good idea, as when I don’t eat at regular intervals throughout the day, my blood sugar drops and I get very upset. Did I mention that I have to wear my socks ALL DAY? They really itch!! And our dog, Becca, was slobbering on me the whole way out – gross!

When we got to my Grammie’s house, I had to work hard to remember what I practice in Speech about social skills and who I was talking to. The tv was on, which was great, but it made concentrating on the people I was saying hi to a bit more difficult. My mom kept pestering me to stop laying down on the couch. But I was comfortable. I don’t understand why I couldn’t lay down on Thanksgiving. Holidays have a lot of rules that are not that fun.

Can you believe we never ate lunch? I had another snack, but that’s not the same. By the time we all sat down to eat dinner, I was very agitated. It did not help at all that I was told that turkey was on my plate. What? I hate turkey! Why are we eating turkey? I didn’t like much of the other food either. The potatoes were ok, but then my mom tried to give me more – seriously? I often just eat bread at family meals. Why doesn’t anyone serve what I like to eat?

It was good that my mom let me chill out in one of the bedrooms with a tv after dinner. But then my annoying brother came in and took the remote from me. I called for my mom and he called me a tattle-tale. I don’t know why I get in trouble for telling when someone else is doing something wrong. That doesn’t make sense. He was told to leave. Whew! Peace at last.

And then it was time to go. I didn’t get to watch all of “The Incredibles,” but I don’t get upset like I did when I was younger, when things get interrupted. It used to be so hard to stop what I was doing, what I was enjoying, without any warning. Then came more saying good bye and “eye contact” with relatives. Finally it was back in the car. This time our dog slept.

I understand that holidays are important. I understand that my family is important. I love my family. It’s just that on a day like today, I have to work so much harder to act “expectedly.” It takes a lot out of me. I hope that everyone knows that I held it together as much as possible because I love them.

7 thoughts on “Thanksgiving Through My Eyes (as interpreted by a mom) – SOL 12/2/14

  1. Sounds like Thanksgiving was a long, hard day! And yet he did it! With a reasonable degree of success. How great for your son that he has a mom that understands!

  2. Love your perspective on this. We don’t often think about what a large family gathering feels like to a child. I think there are awkward moments for adults as well as for the children.

  3. Oh, Aileen, this offers a whole new perspective on holidays. It really makes me think about whether or not holidays are actually enjoyable for the little ones. Sounds like your son held it together and had a successful day – even if there was turkey on his plate. 🙂

  4. I feel a picture book coming out of this piece of writing, Aileen. You know, when we talk about needing diverse books, we also need books about kids with learning differences. Wouldn’t it be great if children with Autism and Asperger’s had a book like this that let them know holidays are hard even when you love your family? Just a thought.

  5. I agree this would make a great book — you write with a wonderful, honest voice from this perspective. I love how you share the difficulty with the understanding of compromise. The love with the difficulty with social expectations… really important for us all to understand – truly understand.
    Thank you for sharing — so glad to have met you.

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