Ever since I started school, my older brother, Jacob, and I have been only two years apart. In elementary, since each class stays to itself, and we always had different teachers, no one really connected that we were brothers, or made much of it.
When we hit middle school though, it was the opposite. I really cannot have a day go by without someone calling me by his name. My parents and I have been in meetings about me, with just my teachers, and someone will still call me by his name. Sometimes they have never even taught my brother.
As I said, he is famous.
It wasn’t always that way, though.
When I was in my first school, in Kindergarten and first grade, I always had friends. I even was assigned a girlfriend on a fair rotation: one week would be Abigail; the next week Sara would get a turn to hang around with me. The girls in my class took care of this rotation, so I didn’t really think about it. I just needed to know that when I went to school on Monday, I could not give too much attention to last week’s friend. I had a new friend for the week.
I also had the most epic best friend: Wade. Wade and I were always together. We liked the same things: Star Wars and Legos, of course. We attended the same aftercare in Kindergarten. In fact, Wade had an older brother who was my brother’s age so we even got play dates. Wade was a once in a lifetime friend.
In elementary school, Jacob did not have an easy time. He had trouble with the loud noises and crowds during recess and lunch. He was always into his video games – Mario and Luigi rule! Mom actually asked me to look out for him on the bus, when we were home, and on weekends. I took great pride in helping my older brother with things. He was really great at math back then, but I was really great at just about everything else.
Then, Wade moved and everything changed.
Then, we moved and I became invisible.